Having a child is a wonderful event. To finally hold this little being is an incredible gift. And that’s when the waltz of bottles, diapers, crying and interrupted nights begins. So when all this is multiplied by two, the result is explosive! In these cases, a lot of feelings get mixed up and the three-year milestone can be like a roller coaster.
You are human!
After the first few days in the maternity ward, you are back home with your two little wonders. You’ve thought about the next few days, you’ve anticipated them so much that you feel prepared for any eventuality. Except, reality is not as ideal as theory. And sometimes you feel overwhelmed, because everything doesn’t go as planned. Babies have different rhythms when it comes to sleeping and eating. As a result, fatigue sets in very quickly, as well as frustration. It is at this precise moment that the “baby blues” arrive. And that’s when the guilt of complaining kicks in. But you’re wrong to let it set in, because it’s normal to be tired, to not be able to keep up. And you have the right to complain. The perfect life does not exist, but the solutions to get through it do exist.
A double organization
It’s impossible to plan for everything, but with the right organization, you can make sure that stress is less of a factor in your life. Two babies to manage is quite a program. There are good times and bad times. You just have to minimize the bad ones and remember only the good ones. Being a mother of twins is a lot of work and requires more organization than having only one baby. For this to be effective, you must be well inside.
Think about your well-being
Your children will always be your priority, but at the same time, you must not forget yourself. Having spent 9 months in your belly, your little ones feel your emotions perfectly. So if you don’t feel good about yourself, they will automatically feel it and the day will be very difficult. Your day doesn’t have to be spent at home. Getting out of your own four walls will benefit you all. By taking your daily walk, you will stay connected to the outside world. You’ll also avoid the feeling of suffocation. Life as a mom of twins is very busy, but that doesn’t mean you have to cut yourself off from the world.
Time their sleep
They may be twins, but each has their own character and needs. Bedtime can be complicated. That’s why it’s important to establish a rhythm to regulate their sleep and achieve a restful rest. The sleep pattern will develop more easily if you put them to bed at the same time. In case one of them is having trouble, shift their bedtime by 10 minutes. By doing this, your babies will wake up at the same time. To optimize your chances, a bedtime ritual can be established around two months of age, such as a warm bath, reading a short story. All of this, along with a little comforting cuddling and a calm environment, will help your little ones find their rhythm. The establishment of a rhythm must also be done for naps and meals.
Growing at their own pace
Your children grew together in your womb, they were born at the same time. But that doesn’t mean they have the same personality and the same evolution. They are two very distinct children who will develop their own character and interests. Don’t put pressure on yourself by trying to idealize your children. Are there conflicts between them? Don’t panic, let them deal with it on their own, as long as they don’t get hurt. This is a way for them to assert themselves and find themselves.