{"id":1663,"date":"2021-03-01T16:04:38","date_gmt":"2021-03-01T16:04:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sos-parent.fr\/blog\/change-the-why-into-how-to-do-things-differently\/"},"modified":"2021-03-01T16:04:38","modified_gmt":"2021-03-01T16:04:38","slug":"change-the-why-into-how-to-do-things-differently","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sos-parent.fr\/en\/blog\/change-the-why-into-how-to-do-things-differently\/","title":{"rendered":"Change the Why? into How? to do things differently!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n
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But why is he having a fit?
\nWhy doesn’t she listen to me?<\/h2>\n

Too often the answers to these questions are so numerous that it is impossible to answer them.
\nIs it really necessary to always know why?<\/p>\n

“Why’ implies a notion of responsibility, of guilt… This form of questioning does not lead to a resolution but rather to a “brainstorming” to find out the reasons, the origin…<\/p>\n

So if it is useful to understand why our children act in certain ways, for all those moments when you don’t have time to answer them (going to school, bedtime, bath time…) I suggest you use the How?<\/p>\n

How can I get out of this crisis?
\nHow can I get him to listen?<\/p>\n

With this type of formulation, you can get the ball rolling again!
\nYou will be able to implement different strategies and no longer “drown” in the flood of guilt-inducing questions!<\/p>\n

It’s only a start, of course, but it’s the best way I know of to become the “actor” of the solution again.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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